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I have liked him for years and supported him emotionally during this difficult time.
We had several great months together and he said he loved me and was making long term plans with me. And yes, this is going to be a transition time for him and that is probably a good thing for you.
Only a month after all this he is backing away, acting distant and telling me we need to sit down and have a long talk. He is closing up his old life and moving to a new life with you. I think that I am suffering from a bit of depression and it has affected how I am responding to his comments.
He says he needs his space and he is up and down with his emotions. Let him talk and let him settle his business and give him his space without pressure and guilt. I do indeed feel that he is backing out of the relationship --tonight when he texted me he used my first name and not the usual "sweetie". Take deep breaths and allow yourself to cry for awhile. If you take care of yourself, you will be stronger and can better handle what happens in the future.
Divorces cost money, can cause stress when there are items, homes, and children involved. He is likely going through his own personal hell, right now, and he will need all the support he can get. I am really full of anxiety today and trying to hold it together. He now says he was caught up in the safety, lust and nuturing of our early relationship and that he does not love me and should not have said it. I am not interested in any other men and I really did love him, although I realize now that he could not have felt the same and changed his mind only 30 days later.
Not just that, but you have to realize that a bond that some people hold in such a high regard was broken. His head and heart are in the middle of a knock down drag out fight and until that ends, he won't be able to move forward properly. I am divorced, 38 and this is the only man I have felt this comfortable with and loved openly. I believe I was his rebound girl after his marriage broke up. It is hard to forget all the things that were said and he clearly does not have the same emotional investment in this that I do. It seems that he is very confused about many things regarding our relationship.
I've been dating a friend who is in the midst of a divorce.
I have to stay stong and try and getmy life back to a happy place becuase I know that if this drags on any longer it will just prolong my pain. now you know to never get involve with a person who is going thru a divorce. It turned my whole world upside down and not for the better.
I love him, but I also hate him for coming into my life, passing through it like a tornado and just left leaving me to clean up the destruction he left me in. it doesn't seem that they would jump into another committed relationship after leaving another. The waiting for him to call, the not knowing what was going on and not to mention knowing he was going home to her every night..good. My advice to all of you is to get yourself to a better place and know that someday you will meet the man of your dreams and he won't be attached to anyone only you! Hi Holly, so did you actually stick it out until the divorce was through and discover then that he didn't want a relationship with you or did you reach that conclusion before the divorce was over like I did?
You really need to be patient and try to understand that he is dealing with some extreme heartbreak. Sometimes people say things because they mean them and then something happens that makes them reassess their feelings. He truly wants you to be happy, but he is probably anguishing so much right now, he knows he wouldn't be a good fit for you. No matter how pretty you paint the picture, you are involved with another woman's husband until that divorce is FINAL.
Honestly, and this is my opinion, he told you these things to push you away so that it will be easier for him. So he is telling you to move on..is afraid of you, women in general, right now and he is afraid of hurting you because of those issues with women. Make sure you have the respect or the distance either one. Until that divorce is FINAL, his commitment is to her...legally, financially, and sometimes emotionally.